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The cruelty of man and the inherent hypocrisy of “morals”

Man is not meek nor does man fear his own cruelty. But he fears that if he admitted his own cruelty, he would validate the cruelty of others, which would put him in danger.

Thus hiding his own cruelty he convinces others that he is meek, thus winning their trust and resources.

Many who pretend they are meek then so find together as a community.

Thus community is something born entirely out of selfish interests. Pretending to be meek is the best way – at least in our society that I know – to ensure safety of the self. Selfish satisfaction.

And when one stops pretending, he is shunned. Not because he is ‘worse’ than the others. But because someone else who doesn’t feel obliged to pretend is an inherent danger to the self.

Ironically, you can not ‘explain’ to that person why he should be pretending. So what you do is – you unleash your own beast on that non-pretender. And he ‘learns’ that the pretense is better. And on the surface you may say to that person ‘You have been bad and this is your punishment.’ But that’s only the surface. The real communication is through pain and that one doesn’t lie. It says: I am a beast and I will keep hurting you until you do as I wish you to do.

Unfortunately this contradiction between verbal and non-verbal communication leads to madness. Classical double bind. It creates a disconnect between the mind and the body. And the result is what we all know as ‘hypocrisy’. It is a man whose mind doesn’t understand his body and whose body doesn’t understand his mind.

I really never understood why people thought ‘altruism’ was not selfish…

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  • Jeff

    Mr Tom Arrow, you are a typical modern MRA retard, incapable of absorbing new arguments. You stated a bunch of points, feminists refuted them and then you just stated the same nonsense all over again. I have no doubt that you will state them the third time as well, because you’re so fucking stupid.

    • Well this particular article has nothing to do with MRA in my opinion, but feel free to enlighten me on how it does.

      Then again, I never claimed to be a super sophisticated thinker, so your criticism kinda leaves me cold.

      But I shouldn’t really waste my time answering you, should I? You’re one of the hired trolls.

      • Userman04

        Tom.. your blog appears in several of the sites about #pizzagate issue, I think that’s why they are coming en masse here, better not read what they say about you on their sites.

        • What sites? Google doesn’t spit out anything related to me and PizzaGate other than a few comments I made on the issue.

          If what you say is true, I want to know what they are ‘saying about me’. Obviously this is some manufactured or at best misinterpreted crap, so if it is truly just a mistake, I’d love to clarify it.

  • Selfish! It’s so easy to say we are always selfish. But what kind of behaviour would be really selfless? The one without any gratification? But if we at last FEEL GOOD because of doing something, then we are already rewarded, right?

    • We are what we are.

      • So maybe we should stop worrying who or what we are? Maybe we should focus on what we DO?

        • Who is “we”? Do whatever you like.

          • People in general. They spend to much time on trying to find out what they are like and how they can be described.

          • Maybe. But who says what is “too much” anyway.

  • Fred Phelps

    Talking about morals, I wish the new Trump government would just kick start anti-religious bigots doors, and start shooting thm in the fucking head. Like anyone is going to complain, if you shoot a fucking atheist in the head.

    If Hitler did what he did, but instead of killing a bunch of Jews, he killed a bunch of atheists, he’d be a fucking saint.

    Seriously, though, the Trump government soon is monitoring these anti-Christian lefties. We know they’re monitoring child porn sites. So they do not find out where these people live, kick their fuckin doors, and shoot em in the head, and just get it over with.

    Make every single one look like suicide. It’ll be like a mass, ‘Oh my god, all the anti-Christ, pro-Hitler atheists realized what they did, and killed themselves’.

    And nobody will give a fuck … nobody.

    It will make the world much, much better. Trust me.

    • American Christian, huh? That’s why I quit Christianity. Jesus was OK, but his followers are very often trash.

  • popi gander

    Tom- here is an example of what these Fred Phelps type of people do to kids in foster care ( and they get paid about 800 per kid, per month):


    • Interesting article. Interesting insofar as the article does not provide any proof of the charge against them. It says nothing about how this was found out.

      Not to say stuff like that doesn’t happen, of course. Whatever can happen, does …

      I will reply to your mail soon.

  • popi gander

    On the contrary- the guy confessed to some sexual abuse of a girl, and I believe there has been a confession as well. But the evidence is solid- these people are scum; but yes, let a jury decide on the facts.

    BTW: my comments from yesterday didn’t appear today- what gives?

    • Well, from the article, he only confessed having had sex with a 15-year-old. Hardly something I would call pedophilia or child molestation. (In Germany this is legal if both are consenting and considered mature.)

      P.S. I didn’t delete any comments. I gave them all a “like” to make sure they are there. Check your Disqus inbox, you should see my upvotes and the comments.

      • Alden

        Law is not the source of moral. To be against or support persecution of an adult who have consensual sex with a person who has reached puberty, ilegal or not, is despicable and to be a useless human spoil, just like those homophobic/anti-women fanatic religious junk of here (and even those who are pro-LGTB/women rights “sex under 18 is rape” hypocrital bigots) even 12/13 years-old are not children, are biologically young adults and are mature enough to consent, period.

        • I tend to agree with this, although I would trust my intuition if I ever was in such a situation. To gauge honestly whether it feels right and does not violate any conscious or unconscious boundaries of the other person. For me personally, at least aesthetically, girls start becoming atttractive around 13 / when they get boobs.

  • Jim Johnson

    I am very religious myself, and I see no problem here. It goes to the definition of hypocrite.

    From wiki: “Hypocrisy is the contrivance of a false appearance of virtue or goodness, while
    concealing real character or inclinations, especially with respect to religious and moral beliefs; hence in general sense, dissimulation, pretense, sham.”

    That is not the same as trying to live up to an ideal and falling short. If that were the case, we are all hypocrites, except Jesus Christ. I have ideals that I fall short on. I feel shame that I do them, and I want to better myself. The hypocrite does not feel shame nor does he want to improve, he is just creating an image of himself and refusing to repent.

    pobody’s nerfect…….

    • Interesting perspective, but I am not sure it’s true.

      Or maybe it is, but why is shame a reasonable indicator? Let’s say someone pretends to be “good” so that he will get material beneifits (although he wouldn’t feel shame for breaking the rules), why is he worse than someone who “is” good to avoid feelings of guilt and shame?

      In fact, I dare say that the pretense of the former may be worth more than the “true goodness” of the latter, in an abstract philosophical way, for he freely chooses to put on his pretense, so a part of him actually decides to be this “good” person, while the latter person cannot be said to freely choose his goodness at all – through shame and guilt, his obedience to goodness is not a show of his good character, but rather a pre-programmed trait.

      But I sense that we will find no fruitful ground for discussion here, because you are firmly entrenched in the Christian interpretation – that is, that one is inherently bad and goodness is to fight that badness. Oh, well, except maybe our ideas are indeed more compatible than it appears at first sight. Except for the little difference that you consider this fight against one’s badness as a virtuous god-ordained commandment, whereas I see it as an evolved necessity.

      • Jim Johnson

        The shame is a motivator to strive to do better. A true hypocrite has no desire to improve, only to look good among his peers.

        Problem is, there is no real “good” or “bad” in this life. Even Jeffery Dahmer (serial killer) was willing to help his mom out, and George Washington was known to have a temper. I would say that it is more about whether or not you are striving to do good, despite where you are on that spectrum. The “I don’t believe in God, so I can’t be a hypocrite” is a cop out. Despite your beliefs, you know there are things you fall short on, whether not recycling everything, or being rude to your neighbor, there are things you can and are working on.

        • Hm. I wonder. If somebody was beating you every day for not acting like a girl (terrifying idea!), would it make you virtuous for trying to be the best girl you can be?

          I think that’s what it comes down to. Do you see shame as pain caused by contempt from other people – that is, as a kind of attack – or do you see the shame as a kind of (divine?) guide?

          But even so, you still choose what shame to accept and which not. That is, if you are judged by a standard you agree with, you will welcome the shame as a guide. If not, you will oppose it. No?

          From that perspective, the hypocrite in your definition is basically a person who doesn’t really agree with the values of the others, but maintains some amount of facade to keep them satisfied. Whereas the “good man” (I know I’m tricking you here a little) is one who agrees with the values of the other people and respects their judgment.

          Obviously … whether you are a good man would then depend on two factors: 1. Your own values. and 2. The values of the people around you.

          • Jim Johnson

            I think you get what I was trying to say, for the most part. One thing I forgot to mention, the hypocrite will pass judgment on others with higher expectations than he will judge himself.