The concept of false beliefs is probably as old as religion. Jokes aside, it is a common wisdom of the self-improvement gurus that it is often your false beliefs that hinder you. Like “I am worthless” or other meaningless stuff like that.
Yet if this is such a common wisdom, how come not everybody is on their way to be a superstar? Let’s take a positive belief like “there is no reason to fear girls”. Indeed, a belief like that can make all the difference between a successful player and someone who doesn’t even go out.
The guru’s disbelief
Sure, so the man who has come to believe this will say: Wow, had I only known this a year ago. It would have spared me so much trouble. I will share this knowledge.
And he cries it out into the world: You idiots, there is no reason to fear girls!
The guru cries it and stands there in disbelief when nobody seems to get it. These stupid grunts.
As if somebody owed him to get better through his words.
But yeah, as a reader, you possibly think this is great and construct a fantasy world in which you imagine not to fear girls. It seems plausible.
But everything can seem plausible in fantasy.
It is easy to tell people to believe something. It is even easy to see someone tell it and repeat it to others because it made you feel all warm and fuzzy and enlightened.
It’s not that the belief is wrong. I argue that the belief is – more often than not – irrelevant.
What matters is not a bunch of words. If it were that easy, everybody would be a superstar.
What made guru a guru?
What matters is conviction. How do you reach the state where you are so deeply convinced of a belief that you wouldn’t even consider seriously questioning it anymore?
There are beliefs that I carry that speak from some profound truth I have learned during my lifetime, for example from the experience of being a very respected web developer at university.
I have seen it in myself and in other people who are very good at what they do: It has become so natural to them that they look down on those who do not understand their little wisdoms that they effortlessly spout. They think that those people must be consciously trying to misunderstand and anger them. They become angry themselves and often tyrannical, to the point where they become too arrogant to answer banal questions or even question themselves anymore.
But the problem here is not that they do not have the skills they claim to have. They do have them.
The problem is that they often are not conscious of how they arrived at the place they are at.
I accused Sir Andrew Wayne of this and he replied something about . Well, fair enough I guess. But what exactly are you to do now?
It is unfortunately really hard to tell.
Some days, I will have an interesting dream, then lie in my bed for an hour and think about something, only to come up with an interesting thought.
But the whole thought process is lost. Frankly, this renders the resulting thought a bit worthless. Because without the logical backup, how can I hold on to it? Often, I will, anyway, vaguely remembering that it did make sense to make sometime back. Trying to write it down often shows me how futile it really is. Other times, I remember the logic behind it, because it flows naturally from all my past experiences.
Most of the beliefs I hold and hold firmly are a result of either absolutely strict and rigorous logic or otherwise hard work and experience. Often a combination of both. Being logical is sometimes hard work in and of itself, as you wade through the stupid emotions that some thoughts trigger in you.
Generally, it comes down to experience and effort. You have to actually be doing stuff, creating references in your mind for future connection.
You can’t just believe something. Your mind has no proof that it is true.
There is this affirmation stuff going around, like I can do anything.
I think it is stupid, because I don’t like to muddle my mind with anything but realistic assessments of my life. By now, even if something seems like it should be right to believe, I’d rather not believe it than believe it without proof. After all, how will you persist with you belief in the face of argument and discussion?
Blind belief is the domain of those who.
So while it would be nice to just adapt the beliefs of even the most highly esteemed person, I cannot. It is not logical. My sympathies for somebody are no proof of their words. Their own belief – even in light of their success – is not a proof of the same belief in me.
Even the skill of a master does not hold the promise of him being a good teacher. Who knows what kind of shortcuts he took on his path of development and has now forgotten? Shortcuts that may create conflicts in your mind, but he may – if he is an idiot – insist that you do not question it.
What if my guru believes he can be UFC champion, building on a lot of reference experiences? I am a different person. I can not simply adapt a belief; I have to reach it through my own effort.
And it often happens. Sometimes I will make an effort to achieve something and when I do, I remember all those sentences I have heard and they start to make sense. But that doesn’t mean that they could have possibly made any sense back when I did not have the experience.
After all, what can words describe and represent if not something we know? If we do not know something that is described by words, the words can not show it to us. We have to see the color red before the word red starts to have meaning.