Are you never satisfied? Do you keep working at projects until everybody praises you, yet still feel inadequate and frustrated by the imperfection of your work? Does your restlessness rob your sleep? Does your pedantic obsession over small details piss off everybody around you? Worry not longer, friend. If you follow my 27 Steps to Perfection in 27 Days, you will finally reach perfection.
In your dreams.
Yeah, I know. What would normally follow is a sermon about how unimportant perfection is, written by some unidentified moron on the internet who tries to convince himself that he doesn’t really care so much about perfection. If enough people like his article “How to Stop Being Perfectionistic”, maybe he can believe his own bullshit. It’s the perfect getaway, anyway.
To be blunt, troubled perfectionists are idiots. They are the ones who write these articles. They oscillate between untouchable arrogance when they reach and nauseating humility when they give up their aspirations. Heh-heh, I’m one of them. Pardon, used to be.
When I gave the following advice on Facebook some time ago, one such guy commented that perfection cannot be reached. To which I replied: I just told you how it can.
Where am I?
You seek perfection in everything. Eat the perfect meal, fuckedy-fuck the perfect girl – with a perfect intercourse, create the perfect piece of work.
Yet that fucking satisfucktion never sets in. Why not?
Because you don’t know where you are.
Are you at the beginning? Near the end? Have you already surpassed yourself? How are you to know. How are you to move on?
You don’t know where you are. That’s why all your projects are either overworked or unfinished. Without a way to tell which one of the two.
There are none unless. You do.
What’s the picture?
What do you see when you think of perfection?
Do you see a perfectly thought out piece of work? Do you see the masses cheering? Both?
You may have an idea of how the perfect thing is supposed to be. But do you really? Or do you rather see yourself in front of that thing and feel the awe of perfection? Try to focus away from that awe. Focus on what is before you. What is it? Can you even focus? Is it a real thing? Or is it something vague or blurry, undefined or nonexistent? Look closer.
You have to know. Because this is the thing you have to compare your aspirations against. If the picture isn’t clear, what option remains but to compare your feeling of awe against the feeling you have when you look at the current state of your work, without any idea in which direction to go? Quite possibly you will be too frustrated in your attempts to ever reach the state of awe.
I remember my talk to two young Australians on my Ayahuasca retreat, both in their 20s. They were both successful businessmen in charge of multi-million dollar companies and were having a talk about the stock market while relaxing in the jungle pond. One of them I asked if there was some kind of basic advice if I wanted to be successful in business. He didn’t have to think long and said yes, . .
You need to. Not your reaction to getting it.
Have a goal
The one most basic advice that was given to me by multi-million guys who: Have a goal.
I haven’t thought about it for months, but I realize that it is a goldmine. To have met them, fate. Just kidding.
Without a goal, you not only cannot judge when you have reached your goal or failed. You don’t even have a direction. You see something in front of you and it’s not right. You know you want it to feel, but you don’t know what to do. You can play around at best and hope to get somewhere. Sometimes it works.
Also, fantasy can be deceiving, because it is uncritical.. In your fantasy, you could photograph a in an uncomfortable situation and have them be jolly about it.
Know what you want. Precisely.
I am a photographer. I want to take a perfect photograph of somebody. One with which I will be satisfied completely.
Well, I know how I want to feel. But I don’t know what exactly is before my inner eye.
And as I try to imagine it, I realize that there is a thousand questions that arise: What should the mood be like? What gesture do I want the person to show? What mimics? Do I want to snap from below to imply arrogance or from the top to portray smallness? From what angle will I shoot? Will the person look into the camera or somewhere else?
There can be a myriad of various aspects on how to decide in this case.
That’s not my point, though.
My point is: You have to decide. It doesn’t matter for what you decide. But.
If you don’t decide, perfection is impossible.
Perfection is the satisfaction of getting exactly what you want. So know what you want.
Another off-hand example: Morals. Don’t try to be a good person – by that you are merely defining the satisfaction of looking at yourself. Define what kind of person you want to be..
There remains one open question: How to decide?
Know the purpose.. You have to choose a purpose based on which you will judge.
Know that no one can take away the decision from you. Even if you decide to let other people decide, you have already decided that your purpose is to satisfy other people’s arbitrary standards. Good luck with the outstanding market research.
. For example: Be a successful investigative journalist may be in conflict with be a law-abiding citizen. Of course, you may still want to . No. You must define it.