Learn game? What do these people know. I’d rather be . I don’t need to be for I am sensitive. And I will find a sensitive girl who likes me. One who will appreciate me for my and . These fuckers are wrong, because I have seen it happen and … oh, right.
I never was in a relationship and I never had – as much as I wish I had – ato teach me these things, but a great thing about life is that you can .
Two years ago I had been unshakably convinced of the necessity to be a to be a self-respecting man at all times. That one should strive to be able to satisfy a confident woman. Then I forgot why., and to be a
Now I remember and I want to share with you two stories I witnessed, the first of which I will narrate today. I swear by mythat they are true.
Romeo & Juliet
Romeo and Juliet were two students of mine. He was a guy, she was a girl. Can I make it anymore obvious? At the time I met them, they had been together for some years. He had been some 16 years old when she threw herself on him. To her, he was . To him, she was something beautiful to have. Yeah, that’s not Shakespeare, fuck you.
They were this nice pair and something I would have readily called equal. We became friends and when I visited, we would circle-hug. Now, Romeo was a very warm-hearted guy; forthcoming, romantic, friendly. He seemed confident about it and I was envious, for I was confident about nothing. In fact, somewhat troubled; she never had that almost selfless positive aura that Romeo had. She sometimes joked about how similar Romeo and I were in many aspects. It sounded motherly and I accepted it; for in a way, I also and take care of me like my mother never had been able to.. Juliet was friendly, but I will call her
These two were indeed best friends and lovers at the same time. It was a proof to me thatwas attainable – or, if you care to be direct, that reward was to be had without effort. Both carried their share even after years of living together; Romeo had never lived alone. Sometimes he would dress up as a woman and would jokingly say that he looked cuter than her. He was certain that Juliet was envious.
Over the course of two years, while I did my part in guiding them through their studies, the two became noticeably obese and things started to fall apart. They had some arguments. To me, the arguments seemed normal. I didn’t grasp the significance of that for some time.
He would still be this somewhat innocent, nice andguy; it was partly weird to see it fail simply because he seemed so self-assured that he was doing it right. When he talked to me, he would warmly smile and say that she just had a tough time appreciating what they had at the moment. Juliet herself became cold, frustrated and annoyed. When I talked to Romeo, he would know that this was something about her past that she wasn’t able to handle. I wanted to agree. And I guess it is a part of the truth – but in the end, it was not the core of the truth.
Juliet told me of her desire to be had by a man who would make her feel like a woman. A man who would take charge. She felt annoyed by Romeo dressing up like a woman and behaving, if you will, in an attempt to be on a par with her.
A new perspective
I left the country to visit my father in the United States and came back with newfound and .
When I saw them again, it struck me. The facade started to crumble. While she was simply being annoyed and slowly drifted away from him to an old love interest of hers, he was in no way accepting of it. Romeo, still in touch with his compassion and heart for her, did do efforts to convince her. Remember, he was not asking for pity – he was convinced that Juliet was making the wrong decision and acted in accordance to what he considered to be her best interest. And to his frustration, he would fail to make her see this.
In this frustration, he would give her the fault for the failing relationship. He would feel righteous and get seriously butthurt. She would do the same to him. Remember what I said about their arguments seeming so familiar to me? This is the exact kind of. Ever saw a child deny the mother it’s attention after being denied a wish?
I knew next to nothing about game, but I kept wondering what made him invest all this effort when she treated him like dirt. This curiosity had nothing to do with calculation. It didn’t baffle me because he would lose her this way; it baffled me because he wasn’t willing to let her make her own choice, even at the cost of losing her. Where was his self-respect?
In retrospect, she never had looked up to him or respected him the way a girl looks up to her strong man.. She had accepted him. Until she failed to.
Romeo did last efforts toJuliet.
When everything else had failed, he sent her a long message reminding her of the great times they had had. He stressed his wish for the relationship not to end in a bad way.
It already had.
Juliet later told me that she had been disgusted by it. How could he dare to impose on her the pretense of a beautiful past after the way he had treated her in the end.
In the face of disaster
When he wrote her that last letter, Romeo once more failed to understand the mechanisms that guilty for not staying and struggled against letting the failure get too close to him. In a way, his warmth and ; and one he wielded very well. In the end, the break-up ended up tormenting him for months. I know this of struggle and I feel today.. This guy seemed so concerned about her happiness; almost an , if you will. I loved him and other people did too; he is someone you call a . Yet he did make her feel
So that’s when I learned that you only recognize a man’s self-respect. But doesn’t a man go after what he wants? Yes. ?in the face of disaster. Only when a man is about to lose something will you see if he has much
Stay tuned for part 2 and the second story.